January 9, 2024

2024 January Energy Check

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New Year; New You?

January is known for more than cold weather and party hangovers. It’s also the month of New Year’s Resolutions and where many resolutions suffer a swift death.
Have your goals already become the collateral damage of short-lived motivation? Whether you answered yes, or no, we’ll take a closer look at why this phenomenon happens and how you can rise above it!

 

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Mindset Matters

Values & the Big Picture

Some studies indicate that upwards of 80% of New Year’s Resolutions fail. That is a startling number but maybe you’re not surprised? Top reasons cited in a December,
2023 article in US News & World Report by E.K. Hawley include but are not limited to:

1. Unrealistic time constraints
2. Succumbing to peer pressure
3. Self-sabotage
Let’s take a moment to unwrap each of these failure modes with a solution focused perspective. First, unrealistic time constraints. Whether your goal is weight loss, fitness, mindset or relational, the common denominator is that they all involve behavior change.
Change can be hard, especially if you slap arbitrary timelines on those change outcomes. Once those timelines are busted, it’s easy to walk away from the resolution. “Welp, I lasted longer than last year.”

Add succumbing to peer pressure to the mix, and now you find yourself sucked in to a “weight loss” or “commit to get fit” challenge group because your friends, spouse, or coworkers goaded you into it. The problem here is that you may not be genuinely committed
to the group intent/goals; therefore, your “want to” tank is pretty empty. As soon as a group member bails out, you see it as an opportunity, a path to freedom! “I never really wanted to play in a pickle ball league every day.”

Lastly, you could actually cause yourself to fall short of your goals. On purpose? Yes, thanks to your Inner Critic (we all have at least one). It’s that judgmental voice that criticizes any new thing you want to do or new change that you want to make. “You’ve
failed the last 20 times you tried doing that so why are you back at it?” “Everyone will laugh at you when you don’t succeed.” “Pickle ball with your sedentary body, get real!” The Inner Critic can be seriously harsh so it’s hard to believe that it was birthed
for our protection! Without diving into details of psychology, just know that your Inner Critic was developed in childhood and designed to protect you from harm, from embarrassment and from hurt. However, in adulthood, your Inner Critic can hold you back from
realizing your full potential
So now what? If you recognized one of these failure modes in this year’s or past resolutions, take heart. The beauty of self-development is that you can start fresh whenever you want!

Keys to Lasting & Successful Resolutions

1. AVOID setting time constraints. Instead, identify what success will look and feel like. Make a list and track them weekly. If you truly
want to lose weight, get fit, or improve your nutrition, visualize your success. Once you have that big picture, identify small steps that you can make in your daily habits to keep you moving TO your success vision.

2. BE authentic. Better together is a great bumper sticker and it’s certainly true that some goals or challenges are easier to tackle as a team than going solo. But that’s only true if you are genuinely invested in that group vision; only
if that group vision is aligned with your core beliefs and values. Before committing to an improvement group, ask yourself how aligned the group’s goals are with your core beliefs, values, and life big picture. Your journey doesn’t have to look like everyone
else’s. It’s your life, your journey, your rules…your motivation. Find your WHY for the personal goal that you want to achieve and keep that WHY in focus.

3. If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I knew this wouldn’t work,” then you’ve experienced self-sabotage. This differs from the Inner Critic in that you convince yourself that a past bad experience or failure will absolutely happen again.
How true is that, really? So what if your 2023 resolutions all fell through, does that mean with absolute certainty that your 2024 resolutions will too? What’s different? YOU ARE! You are now armed with new knowledge and tools and you now have another whole
year of experience under your belt. Assuming that the past
dictates the future can erode confidence. Lack of confidence is the doorman for self-sabotage. Newsflash:
confidence is not an emotion; confidence is a choice and it begins with your thinking. To feel differently, think differently. Thoughts drive feelings which become actions and outcomes. It all starts with your thinking. As the old saying goes…
if
you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.

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AVOID setting time constraints. Instead, identify what success will look and feel like. Make a list and track them weekly. If you truly want to lose weight,
get fit, or improve your nutrition, visualize your success. Once you have that big picture, identify small steps that you can make in your daily habits to keep you moving TO your success vision.

 

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BE authentic. Better together is a great bumper sticker and it’s certainly true that some goals or challenges are easier to tackle as a team than going solo.
But that’s only true if you are genuinely invested in that group vision; only if that group vision is aligned with your core beliefs and values. Before committing to an improvement group, ask yourself how aligned the group’s goals are with your core beliefs,
values, and life big picture. Your journey doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s. It’s your life, your journey, your rules…your motivation. Find your WHY for the personal goal that you want to achieve and keep that WHY in focus.

 

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If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “I knew this wouldn’t work,” then you’ve experienced self-sabotage. This differs from the Inner Critic in that you convince
yourself that a past bad experience or failure will absolutely happen again. How true is that, really? So what if your 2023 resolutions all fell through, does that mean with absolute certainty that your 2024 resolutions will too? What’s different? YOU ARE!
You are now armed with new knowledge and tools and you now have another whole year of experience under your belt. Assuming that the past
dictates the future can erode confidence. Lack of confidence is the doorman for self-sabotage. Newsflash: confidence is not an emotion; confidence is a choice and it begins with your thinking.
To feel differently, think differently. Thoughts drive feelings which become actions and outcomes. It all starts with your thinking. As the old saying goes…if you think you can or think you can’t, you’re
right.

Application: If you’re still on path with
your 2024 goals or resolutions, look them over and make them more robust using the three tips. If you’ve already punted on those goals or resolutions (hey, it’s football season), then create new ones using the three tips. Most of all, never…ever…give up!

 

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Know Your WHY

Who Are You…Really?

For most people, who they are is wrapped up in what they do for a living. When you meet someone, don’t they often ask you what you DO? If they ask, “tell me about
yourself,” do you answer with what your job is, the company that you work for, or what your primary life role is? “I’m an engineer, doctor, lawyer, dentist, mechanic, director of ______, leader, business owner, father, mother, etc.” It’s not wrong to think
in these terms but it is very limiting.
When I worked for General Motors, it was sadly common for retirees to die within six months of retirement! At the time I thought it was because they didn’t have a retirement plan. In hindsight, I believe it was because their identity was wrapped up in their
occupation. Once they retired, the occupation was gone. They were lost. They no longer felt valued or productive; they lost a sense of purpose because they lost their identity! When a person loses purpose, loses hope, they also lose their will to live.

I encourage you to answer the question, “who am I” without tying the answer to your primary life role or how you earn a living. For me, my identity is not defined by how I earn money or how much money I earn. It is not wrapped up in my career or roles that
I serve (wife, mother, friend, mentor, leader). My identity is who the Lord called me to BE: an optimizer of people. My life became so much more clear, joyful and energizing once I fully embraced this! An Optimizer of People! Not only others, but also myself.
I am often asked, “how do you stay so disciplined?” Honestly, it’s not always easy, but if I give in to the temptations of slacking off, eating poorly, putting money over faith, or not developing myself…then I’m also being disobedient to God. Disobedient
to what He’s called me to BE, for myself and whoever He brings into my life.
You don’t have to be a person of faith to really reflect on who you ARE. You just have to connect inward. Lock in to your true identity. It will fuel you, motivate you, and comfort you. It will stand the test of time and guide you through every cycle of life!

 

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Digging Deeper

Because you are a subscriber, you are welcome to join my 90-day Healthy Habits community group! The core focus of this group is to establish Healthy Habits that
you can carry forward for the remainder of 2024 and beyond. It is a private group that I am hosting via the BODi platform. There is no requirement to purchase products or programs. The only requirement is that you keep an open mind and that you engage with
me and others in the group reference your goals and Healthy Habits quest.
At the end of 90-days this group will end. You can, of course, continue your engagement with my on-going fitness community: Fit, Fierce & Fun.

Digging Deeper is about exactly that…going deep into your WHY, deep into busting the shackles that you’ve put on yourself, deep into finding your wellspring of uplifting, energizing mindset and motivation. Use those three tips that I spoke about earlier and
if this group sounds like your jam, then click on the image and follow the prompts.

Have questions? Interested in more of a one-on-one experience? Click the button below and schedule your complimentary consultation. It’s that easy!

 

 

 

 

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